Being pregnant and giving birth to a baby for the first time brings along some amazing changes to your entire world. From body changes as the baby grows inside to altering hormone levels, you often begin thinking about what life will be like once the incredible birth of your first child has taken place.
Will they be a boy or a girl? Who will they look like? What will they need? So many questions to ask and so many things you want to do. Some of the questions are easy to find answers to. Speaking to your own friends, your parents and other relatives and midwives or doctors are all possible options.
You can decide who you feel is the best to ask depending on the type of question you have. Not all the questions you ask will always have a specific answer. In some cases, there are or could be multiple answers available. You might also (and in some case are likely to) find that the answers given, if you ask more than one person or group of people, can vary.
Try not to worry. With many things, listening to the advice you are given and then making the choice that you want to make is a good step. Where you’re unsure, you can always seek further advice online, at parenting groups or in-store. There are lots of options available.
Flipping the coin, when you are asked by friends and relatives if, and what gifts you would like for your baby, what would you suggest? Thinking about what you will need and would like to have prior to giving birth is good idea. With advice given by midwives and various other sources, you can start to build up a list of the things you want. Here’s a copy of the first list I made in my run down to giving birth.
Things we need to have:
- Car seat
- Bed for baby to sleep in
A Moses basket with a stand (should be able to fit and move both up and downstairs) and a cot (for the baby bedroom)
- Sheets and blankets
To use inside the Moses basket and cot, as well as around the house and in the pram/pushchair
- Baby bath
Can we get one that can be filled up in the bath?
- Baby towels
With or without a video camera
- Baby clothes
Vests and body suits, gloves and hats
I found that having written the list I felt confident that we had put down the essentials that we decided we wanted. The only thing we’d not done was be specific about which we wanted. By that I mean things like the colour, the brand, the design and so on. It wasn’t until we started to look around online and in-store that we began to work out what suited us. As I was questioned more and more about what I or we would like as a gift, I began to take note of some of the things I’d seen meaning I could point the person asking in the direction we wanted to go.
In general, a simple plain bedding if it was a neutral multi-sex colour, we were fine with. This was the same for a baby baths, towels and the clothes. However, when it came to pictures or designs that we often would see on products, we struggled to spot ones we both felt happy with. Having looked around a lot, we eventually spotted a style we both liked. Out of all the things, it was something neither of us had through about or expected to see. Suddenly, both online and in-store we started to spot unicorn related products more and more often. I think it would be fair to say that the retailers selling the products had spotted that various people must find these items attractive. So, as well as having notes listing the basic versions of the things we were happy to have (including to receive as gifts), I began to add specific unicorn designed creations that we spotted. Here’s how far and as simple as I made it…
Sheets and blankets
ü Plain white, cream or light grey cotton blankets and sheets – Mothercare, John Lewis
ü Unicorn patterned blankets – lots of different ones on Amazon – particularly like unisex one made by Little Jump
We discovered from chatting to other parents we met after our first baby was born, that having decided to be specific about the products we wanted and the style and design of them, we had definitely put ourselves in a blissful position.